after experiencing some not-so-nice behavior in the blogging community, I decided to take a stand. I have always been the kind of person to take a negative situation, and try to turn it into a learning opportunity. It is either the product of being a social worker, or the reason I became one--whichever came first, I don't know.
I also provide training workshops on personal and organizational accountability. sounds boring I know, but it's actually very helpful in life. it's about recognizing and taking responsibility in what you can and cannot change. If you see or are experiencing something you do not agree with, and you do not do what is in your power to change it--then you are also part of the problem.
I was recently involved (I don't like the word "victim") in a situation that was hurtful. I got angry about it, I lost interest in blogging, I blamed. but then I thought, "what can I do to change this?" I can speak from my heart, and I can make an effort to be mindful of not doing the same to others. and, even better I can hope that others will join in and do the same.
and so the "kind-hearted blogger" campaign was born.
AS A KIND-HEARTED BLOGGER I PLEDGE TO:
create, inspire, and admire rather than compete with fellow bloggers
be understanding of each other-- in the blogging community, as well as in the world
stay away from internet/blogging bullying
speak my opinion freely, while still being mindful of other's feelings-- be tactful.
make an effort--no matter how big or small the gesture, to spread kindness or joy to others
acknowledge that I will make mistakes, (I am only human) but remember to learn from them
know that at times I will post about the negative stuff in life, and maybe even some complaining (I am only human) but I will always follow up with something happy/positive too.
believe that this world is a good place, filled with good people.
FEEL FREE TO JOIN IN (let me know if you do so I can link you)
also, make sure to take a look at my blog pal lindsay's wonderful post on kindness. it's beautiful, and perfect, and I feel so honored to have contributed a small part to it.
so my husband was gone pretty much this whole week. he went on a diving trip to the big island with a bunch of his friends.
he brought back lots of fish (the good blue water kind-- mahi, ono)...and even better than that (well, to me at least), he brought back this beauty:
a gift from my friend (his friend's girlfriend) nicole, of nikoart. she sent it home with him. thank you, thank you, thank you nicole!!!! you made my day--I LOVE it! this photo does not do it any justice though!
thank you so much for the kind, and encouraging comments, emails, texts, and messages regarding this post. I was pleasantly surprised by how much response I have received. I am so very appreciative!
It has helped to restore my hope in blogging, and the blogging community. I replied to a friend's email saying that the reason I became a social worker is because I believe that the world is a good place, full of good people. I feel validated that this is true. It gives me so much hope for this world that my em jay will grow up in.
I make a lot of mistakes in life, and sometimes say or do things that I regret later...or realize was wrong. I am so NOT perfect. the complete opposite in fact. I do however try to find ways to learn from my experiences and my mistakes, and I do hope that certain people are able to do the same. this is how we grow. this is being human.
be kind, be compassionate, and believe in the world we live in!
krystal from krystal's kitsch is participating in the 30 day song challenge and I plan to play along (looks hard, but I'll try)...
Day 01 – Your favorite song Day 02 – Your least favorite song Day 03 – A song that makes you happy Day 04 – A song that makes you sad Day 05 – A song that reminds you of someone Day 06 – A song that reminds of you of somewhere Day 07 – A song that reminds you of a certain event Day 08 – A song that you know all the words to Day 09 – A song that you can dance to Day 10 – A song that makes you fall asleep Day 11 – A song from your favorite band Day 12 – A song from a band you hate Day 13 – A song that is a guilty pleasure Day 14 – A song that no one would expect you to love
Day 15 – A song that describes you
Day 16 – A song that you used to love but now hate
Day 17 – A song that you hear often on the radio
Day 18 – A song that you wish you heard on the radio
Day 19 – A song from your favorite album
Day 20 – A song that you listen to when you’re angry
Day 21 – A song that you listen to when you’re happy
Day 22 – A song that you listen to when you’re sad
Day 23 – A song that you want to play at your wedding
Day 24 – A song that you want to play at your funeral
Day 25 – A song that makes you laugh
Day 26 – A song that you can play on an instrument
Day 27 – A song that you wish you could play
Day 28 – A song that makes you feel guilty
Day 29 – A song from your childhood
Day 30 – Your favorite song at this time last year
So, today while browsing my sitemeter... I kept wondering why there were so many clicks coming in from twitter. I followed the link and was pretty shocked to discover that someone had posted about my blog.
Apparently the person was quite offended that I had used the name "em jay" since her very good friend has the same nickname. Then I found a whole thread of tweets about me being "unoriginal" (I had actually never seen the other emjay blog till now). I'm not saying that it is wrong to be offended or to post that opinion about me, because that is the great thing about this day and age. With blogging, and twitter, and facebook, etc-- everyone is entitled to their opinions. I'm also not posting this to point out the person, or to be mad, or upset.
I guess the reason I'm writing this is because I was pretty hurt, and a little bit disheartened by it. Especially since I feel I put my heart and soul into this blog sometimes. And I also try to be very aware of not copying or offending anyone (though sometimes I take inspiration from others...and credit them)... I have always felt so supported, and have been overjoyed to find such an open community of crafters and bloggers on the web... it really disenchanted me somewhat. I actually felt like it took the joy of blogging away a little for me and considered quitting.
But after some self-talk (yes, that's the therapist in me-- can't help it, it's my profession. and therapists need therapy too!) I decided that it's true everyone is entitled to their opinion and to share it-- it's a free country as they say. and really, you can't please everybody. This blog is exactly what it's title is--about me and my daughter emily jay (em jay). And my opinion is that there's nothing wrong with that. It's also wrong of me to overlook all of the other wonderful, good-hearted people out there doing their thing...and allowing me to do mine.
So, I guess in the end this turned out to be an appreciation post of some sort. as well as a "snap out of it Joanne, be a bit more understanding and accepting and...let it go" post.
I guess it goes to show... or prove that I am only human. We are all only human. I am letting it go...
Be back later with a bunch of ATC swaps I've been working on...
p.s. em jay has a fever, again. what is going on????
I have been a fan of Discovery Channel's Deadliest Catch from the very beginning. This season has been following Captain Phil's death. It's very sad, and also touching--the camera men are fantastic. I really hope they have won, or will won some kind of award for cinematography. They truly are amazing. They have been able to pay special tribute to Captain Phil while still maintaining and not losing focus of the show's true subject-- crab fishing. I think they've done a respectable job.
In honor of Captain Phil, and Deadliest Catch--I decided to do a Nautical inspired post.
You'll probably laugh because Deadliest Catch is such a manly show, and
this post and the stuff in it are so girly. But I'm girl, so here goes:
My newest obsession is researching gocco machines. I've been debating for awhile whether to make the investment or not. I could kick myself for not getting one when paper source had them in stock. It seems the more I wait, the more they cost! Here are some wonderful gocco creations to drool over...