one of those not so happy posts...
So the other day I posted about my noisy neighbors making a fire at
midnight. Well, last night they were at it again. Not a fire, but
being LOUD. I tried closing the windows, but it was too stuffy, and I
kept thinking why should I have to suffocate while I'm trying to sleep
when they are partying at 12:30am.
My dad went to talk
to them, but no luck. After tossing and turning, I went out in my
pajamas to give a little lecture. The thing to know about me (you
might already) is that when I feel someone is doing something not
right or unjust--that affects others, I will most likely say something
about it (accountability, right)-- in a heart to heart way. I don't yell, or put anyone down, act rudely, or have a
hissy fit. I will nicely explain and "teach", until I turn blue, until I
think they understand (you, know spread the idea of kindness and being human and such)--which sometimes comes out as lecturing. I know no
one likes to be "lectured"-- but I just can't help myself. There are
some things I'd like people to understand.
marched over to the fence...said "excuse me!"...and went at it with
explaining about how I'm not trying to ruin their fun. really. I've
never bother them on weekends when they party until dawn--it's a
weekend-it's fun...I just want them to understand that this is a family
neighborhood. it's a week night, and some people have to work
and get up early in the morning. some people have children who are
trying to sleep. " I'm just speaking human to human...can you
understand that from your heart?" and "can I speak to the guy who lives here
please"...etc, etc...until the guests of the "neighbor" said "Okay...I
understand. we're leaving now."
they would not give info, or let us speak to "the guy who lives there..."
guests were nice. one of them apologized profusely in hawaiian--"kala
mai" and in english...however the guy who "rents" there -- I think he
does...he's always hanging around. oh my goodness. he made my blood
boil. I said "we have to work and make a living it's hard when you can't sleep." he says,
"yeah don't we all...why don't you go back in the house and go to
oh no he didn't. really? you're seriously
saying that to me? I almost lost it. I could feel myself getting very angry. I went from a perfectly nice,
calm "heart to heart" lecture to..."who just said that!!? I want to
know who said that!!!.." oh boy. my little 5 foot self almost jumped
over that fence when he said to me "you want to call the cops...do it...YOU'RE
the ones causing problems and making noise right now." the other guy-- the
hawaiian one kept telling him..."nah, no make li'dat...no make, sorry auntie" he kept apologizing for him.
my mom came outside..."Joanne, get inside...just come inside..." I get
in the house and there's marc..."umm can you tell me next time you decide to do
that??" he heard me outside our window. and that was that. I calmed down -- reminded myself to be mindful. and we spent
some time discussing what we should do about it and whether we were in
any danger from this guy. and that yes, it wasn't the smartest thing to confront the guy by myself. and how can I find a way to create something positive out of this.
what do we do. anyone have any ideas?? or know about the laws on these
kinds of things?? we've tried working with our town association for
YEARS. we've never called the cops on them, but other
neighbors have and all the cops can do is tell them to keep it down"
then guys move out...and another set of LOUD people move in and it's
the same cycle over and over...new people all the time. all noisy!
There have even been fights between "renters" and a couple of stabbings
even-- you can see them clearly from our bedroom window upstairs. it's
a bit scary. we've lost a lot of sleep because of them. and it
wouldn't be as bad if they were in the house in enclosed walls...but
they live outside--just over our fence. (in hawaii we have small
properties, and homes are close together.)
with it for years, and I'm really starting to think it's about time to
try and do something about it, like REALLY do something...in the right
way. not be mean and to bum their trip and be one of those grouchy
neighbors... but because it's just not right. it's not too cool of them. but I'm at a loss...
any suggestions would be GREAT!